Between the sheets

Ever had a day when your partner's tongue's hanging out for sex but you're keeping him at arm's length because you're just too tired, stressed and preoccupied to think about passion? Has your sex life slipped into a rut? Here are some tips on how to spice things up.

Be open to your partner's advances - don't always make an excuse, or turn him down outright. Sometimes sex can be a great way to unwind and make the awful day you've had go away.

Add a little variety - imagine you're a different person every time you make love, and you'll experience sex differently. Varying the pace of things can really rejuvenate your sex life.

Let sex heal you - when we have sex, powerful "feel-good" chemicals called endorphins are released into our bodies. These help lift our spirits when we're tired, stressed, disappointed or despondent.

Be adventurous - try out different sexual identities, positions and techniques. Pop into an adult store and buy some edible underwear, a book on sex and try some of the suggestions. Above all, conduct your experiments with a sense of humour!

Acknowledgement: True Love

Grown-Up Girls Stress-Busting Slumber Party

Remember when your biggest problem was choosing a prom gown or letting the boy you liked know how you felt? Ahhhh, those were the days. Problems seemed so great, yet in the grand scheme of things, you really only needed a chocolate milkshake or a pint of Ben & Jerry’s to assuage your every concern.

Now, with faster-paced lives, more personal and familial responsibilities and even greater problems, sometimes it takes more than a chocolate milkshake or even a gallon of Chunky Monkey® could tackle.

For an easier take on life, women truly need to make time for their families, their friends, and essentially, themselves. The key to a successful balance is making time for these entities separately, resulting in a happier life with reduced stressors and a more relaxed outlook.

Family time and personal time can be arranged on a day-to-day basis, with special family meals and movie time, game time or special trips and outings together on the weekends. Bubble baths, naps, scrap-booking, baking and shopping provide nice options for alone time, while activities like yoga, Pilates and general exercise routines can be as good for the soul as they are for the body.

To complete the balance, women should keep in touch with friends and plan get-togethers at least once a year, but preferably more often. As people grow up and move on with their lives, it is common that many friends may find themselves miles and miles, and even states apart. This may call for an old-school approach to the common problems of womanhood.

So who says you’re too old for sleepovers once you’re married, anyway? Toss your cares to the wind and call up all your old friends and all your new ones in an effort to get the gang together for a night of relaxation, reminiscence and rejuvenation. Send the kids to your parents’ or your husband’s parents’ house (or failing that, to their friend’s house for a sleepover!). Dash out to the supermarket to pick up a few key snacks and ask each friend to bring a goodie to eat and a goodie for the soul.

Acceptable edible goodies for slumber party:

Baked goods – especially cookies, cupcakes, candy, pastries, etc.

Cheese and crackers

Veggie tray

Shrimp cocktail or other hors d’oeuvres

Wine or other beverage of choice

Pizza

Tea and hot cocoa

Other delicious foods

While it is nice to eat healthy and practice a diet all the time, sometimes a little snack here or there might not hurt. Be sure to offer both junk food and healthy food options in case your guests have just begun a new diet. Faithful standbys like ice cream and frozen treats may best be provided by the hostess.

Goodies for the soul may include:

Photos and scrapbooks from your earlier days

Home videos and especially videos showing each other

Favourite movies, especially chick flicks

Craft projects like knitting and crocheting

Pedicure kits

Manicure kits and plenty of nail polish

Facials

Aromatherapy

Music

Girly magazines

Board games and other fun activities

During your girls’ slumber party, relax and revisit your past. Spend time with your girlfriends – the women who got you through all those tough times and influenced you enough to have even a slight impact on which you are today.

Take the time to go through photographs from years gone by. Enjoy every moment and take new photographs so you have more memories to hold dear. Watch an old favourite movie and reminisce about the days in college when the flick was your soul’s medicine during every bad day or every break-up. Indulge in sweet temptations, even if this is “the last time” before you start your diet.

By Kathryn D'Imperio

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How Simple “Slipups” Are Seductive

So many of us women have felt, at one point or another, uncomfortable with what we're wearing.

Maybe you've been invited to a party and select a sweater and a pair of pants. When you first purchased this outfit, you were proud to wear them out. Perhaps you've gained weight or are simply feeling bloated, but when you wear them this time, you find yourself constantly adjusting your pants or pulling down your shirt. It feels as though all eyes are on you.

Even if these thoughts are all in your head, you still speak them out loud with your constant adjustments. You might think you're making these adjustments subtly but in reality you're feeling and looking awkward in your own skin.

Making adjustments doesn't always have to mean "awkwardness", however. When done in a deliberate, flirtatious and joyful way, it's playful and tempting.

The main thing to remember when it comes to those sexy little slip-ups is that whatever you are "adjusting" is what you're calling attention to.  Men are captivated by women who are forever adjusting their clothes and themselves, but if you don't want him to notice the extra "cushioning" around your middle, don't fiddle with the hem of your shirt!

Many activities involve on-going maintenance include:

- Fixing your hair;

- Pulling up your dress or bra strap;

- Pulling down your skirt when it hikes up;

- Lifting your skirt, leaving a glimpse of your thigh exposed;

- Loosening tight, skimpy clothes;

- Tightening the looseness of oversized clothes or belts;

- Adjusting your necklace;

- Making sure your dangling earrings are not caught in your hair.

These motions call attention to the parts of you that you WANT him to focus on!

Consider wearing clothes that don't quite fit to keep the adjusting going. For example, wear sleeves that are too long so that you are always pushing them up. (I have a thing for long sleeves!)

Fidgeting with my clothes isn't an option during dance competitions, but I can play with my skirt or dress by slowly lifting it to expose a little more of my leg. Every time I touch a piece of clothing during a competition, it's done deliberately, often to expose some skin!

Fanning yourself when hot, or hugging yourself when cold, makes him aware of your physical state. He may want to help relieve your discomfort by fanning or hugging you himself.

Make him wish he were the one to be fixing and fluffing you.

Be aware that playing with objects can be perceived as barriers. For example, if you hold your glass directly in front of you, you are preventing a man from getting closer -- unless that is the outcome you want. If you are holding a purse, try not to keep it in front of you, as it can seem like an impassable fence -- unless that is the outcome you want.

If you lower your drink or purse and put it aside, that's an inviting sign to make him move in.

Transitioning between positions, like moving from standing up to sitting down, is a chance to make adjustments as well.

Every move you make should feel like a dance. Every move you make should be done deliberately and with purpose. It may seem like a lot to think about -- and at first, it is – but soon they will feel completely natural.

Start with one gesture consistently and then add another.

Repetition and practice are the keys to fluent movements.

Men love the promise of malfunction drama -- so act like you're about to pop or fall out of your clothes... But don't!

By: Patty at Sensuality Secrets

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Learn how to fantasise

Many of us tend too feel shy about having sexual fantasies, or even guilty. But the experts say that a vibrant fantasy life is an important element of healthy sexuality, and should be encouraged in people who’ve suppressed it or simply haven’t had many fantasies before.

Some people complain that they ‘have no imagination’, but in fact that’s not true. If you’ve ever thought about what you’d like for lunch, or pictured a dream holiday destination, then you’ve used your imagination. Similarly, if you’ve ever looked forward to sex, or wondered what a favourite film star looked like naked, then you’ve had a sexual fantasy. So the basics are there for everyone. But if you’d like to make your erotic fantasies more elaborate and potent, so that they really add an extra dimension to your sexual experience, then you might need to exercise that mental facility a little.

Here are some ideas that might help:

- Take some time to think about what really turns you on sexually. Don’t stop at physical attributes; think about settings too, whether it’s a passionate clinch before a fire on a rainy night, or outside in a meadow or on the beach. Think about previous sexual encounters, and what aspects made them special, then incorporate those elements into your fantasies and expand on them or make them more exaggerated or vivid. You’re the director of your own movie here, and anything goes. Even better than a movie, you can bring all the senses into play: don’t forget about how the sound of someone’s voice, or certain scents or textures, have erotic power.

- If you find you’re a bit lacking in material, then why not tap into other people’s fantasies and select what appeals to you. The most common male fantasies include: having sex with an existing partner, giving and receiving oral sex, having sex with more than one person, being dominant, being passive and submissive, reliving a previous erotic experience, watching others have sex, trying new sexual positions. The most common female fantasies include: having sex with an existing partner, giving and receiving oral sex, having sex with a new partner, romantic or exotic locations, doing something forbidden, being submissive, reliving a previous experience, being found irresistible, trying new sexual positions.

- You could also try erotic books, magazines, art and movies for inspiration. Even those that aren’t explicitly erotic may serve to turn you on: some people find sweet old-fashioned love stories do it for them; others get excited by action movies.

Practise fantasizing sexually

A good way to start is on your own with a few simple relaxation exercises. Choose a quiet time when you won’t be disturbed, and relax each part of your body, breathing slowly and deeply. Be aware of each part of your body, especially the erogenous zones. Then start to play the ‘movie’ you’ve been developing in your mind, and see where it takes you. Some people just enjoy running through the fantasy as a relaxation or mild turn-on, others use it together with masturbation.

Practise your newly developed fantasy techniques when you’re sexually intimate with your partner, by merging the real lovemaking with the fantasy. Some couples enjoy sharing their fantasies with each other and sometimes acting on them. If you think this would benefit your relationship, but haven’t tried it before, then suggest it to your partner – just take care to reassure him or her that the reason you wish to try this is not because you desire someone else (e.g. the Brad or J-Lo you’ve cast in your movie) over them, but that you feel it could enhance the existing attraction between the two of you.

If the subject matter of your fantasies makes you feel uncomfortable, remember that thinking something and acting on it really are worlds apart. The great thing about fantasies is that you are free to think, be and feel anything you like, because there are no consequences. But fantasizing should be a positive experience; if you feel as if it’s getting out of control, or the thoughts are becoming intrusive and distressing, and then banish them from your mind. 

Remember: you’re the director of this movie.

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All about Mini Skirts

Mini skirts are more than still in, they are a fashion must-have.

Why are mini skirts sexy? What makes men like seeing women’s legs?
I can understand the primeval lust for breasts (supposedly resembling buttocks!) and for red lips (similarly resembling flushed sexual organs!), but why legs?

It’s not that women who ran faster were better breeders or anything. Maybe it’s the exposed flesh that’s been covered in more modest times.

Whatever the reason, it makes one look like the top of the evolutionary pyramid that all males want to breed with.

And so many women want to be irresistible to the attention of men...

Even though the notion of "dressing your age" is outdated, micro mini skirts look best on younger women.

However, it's easy to modify the look for any age: just go a few inches above the knee for an updated look that's still quite flattering and wearable.

Note: Good rule of thumb in case you're wondering if your feminine figure can handle thigh-grazing attire: a skirt should never be wider than it is short.

Remember that everything - getting into a cab, picking up that lucky penny you stumble upon in the parking lot, sitting on a stool - is a challenge in a mini.

Wondering which shoes and leg wear to use with your miniskirt?

Try these below to look your trendy best:

• Boots - The hands-down winner for a miniskirt is a pair of boots. Lengths range from ankle-length to mid-calf to knee-high. Tall boots (a few inches under the knee) are the easiest to carry off with short skirts.
• The nude look - Show off the rewards of step classes and waxing sessions with bare legs and boots. Or fake perfect legs with self-tanner or leg makeup.
• Socks - Display your playful side with over-the-knee socks. Only for the young (under 20 and adventurous!)
• Patterned leg wear - Add soft texture to pantyhose with subtle patterns for a ladylike look; fishnets for funk or bold graphics for a nice feel.

Don't be afraid to enjoy yourself and have fun!

By Beverly Smith

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Sensual Toys

You played with toys when you were young. Why change now that you’re all grown up?

Sex toys can put the fun back into a relationship and can be used to expand and enrich your sex life. Toys can be used with a partner or on your own, but remember sex toys are never a substitute for the real thing.

Many people find the subject of introducing sex toys intimidating. Even couples with the best communication skills often find it difficult to discuss sex:

• You know your relationship best. If your partner is someone you feel comfortable enough with to just surprise them one evening then go for it
• Whisper the idea in your partner's ear during your next sexual encounter
• Confess that you've fantasized about them using a vibrator on you
• Get your partner involved in the process. Shop for a vibe together. It gives you an excellent opportunity to describe the ways you'd like to use toys.
• Go on-line and begin exploring the world of sex toys one evening over a glass of wine.
• Communicating your sexual desires not only brings you more sexual satisfaction but can also deepen your relationship as a whole. It can bring you both to a new level of intimacy that you can explore together. Adding a toy to your sexual repertoire should be fun.

 Beautiful and sensual Aitana Sánchez-Gijón

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1. Cuddle

2. Talk

3. Sleeping next to each other.

4. Long Walks

5. Kissing

6. Wrestling

7. Looking into each other's eyes.

8. Just be with them.

9. Make love.

10. Watch romantic movies.

11. Have a romantic dinner.

12. Laugh together

13. Relax

14. Lie in bed and talk.

15. Do something new.

16. Feed each other.

17. Watch T.V. and cuddle.

18. Spend time at the park.

19. Look at the stars.

20. Have an all day date.

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Tips for Improving Intimacy

It is inevitable! After a certain period of time, you and your partner will encounter moments when you feel less intimate with one another. Lack of intimacy can be emotional, physical, or both. Often, these are passing phases in a relationship, but due to the stress that lack of intimacy can cause, many relationships fail to bounce back after this period. There are a number of things that can decrease the level of intimacy in a relationship. Some of these include:

- Pregnancy

- Childbirth

- Children

- Pressures At Work

- Financial Problems

- School/College

- Boredom

- Unresolved Arguments

- Medical Problems

If you are going to address a lack of intimacy in your relationship, the first step is to try and determine the nature of the problem. If it is a medical or health concern then you should seek the advice of your health care professional. However, if the lack of intimacy is caused by other factors, such as stress or tension there are some steps that you can take to help put your relationship back on track. Here are some tips that will you improve intimacy in your relationship.

Since stress is one of the most prevalent causes underlying a lack of intimacy between couples, it is the first area to be addressed. Stress can cause the body to go into defense mode. It can also suppress the Immune System leaving the body susceptible to sickness, exhaustion, and feeling as if you have no energy to perform every day chores. By ensuring that you have a healthy diet that includes plenty of exercise you can prevent stress from getting its hold on you.

It may sound strange at first, but the best way to prevent a lack of intimacy is to begin by taking care of your own health. When you exercise, you will release hormones (such as endorphins) and have a positive outlook on life. This will give you the stability that you need to face the challenges of everyday life. Once you have your life in balance, you will be able to enjoy spending time with your partner in a greater capacity. You should also consider taking a daily multivitamin supplement to ensure that your physical well being is at its optimum.

emotional, 

Once you have taken the steps necessary to ensure your health and well being, you should also look at ways that you can prevent or reduce stress specifically. Find a way to relax every day and you will begin to have the energy needed to spend intimate and stress free time with your partner.

When couples lack intimacy, whether it is physical or emotional, a lack of communication begins to develop. To reverse this, it is imperative that you communicate with each other. Discuss what is going on. If it is a medical concern, tell your partner. Intimacy issues can be a cause of fear and anxiety, and by sharing them with your partner you can depend upon the strength and support that they offer. Talking is the best way to sort out the issues that may be the underlying root of your intimacy issues as well.

However, some couples find that writing a letter may be the best way to express how they feel. Whichever way you choose, the point is to make sure that you communicate your concerns, fears, thoughts, and anxieties with your partner. By working through these issues together, you can ensure that you will pass through this stage in your relationship and enjoy a deeper and greater level of intimacy.

My Beautiful Body

Studies: Size doesn’t matter

A survey of 50 000 American adults finds 70 percent of female respondents desire more ample or rounder breasts - even though the majority of male respondents say they are perfectly happy with their partner's breast size.

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Twelve smart strategies to keep your relationship thriving.

Why do some couples seem so head-over-heels? It's not that their lives are any easier or more perfect than yours-- but they do know how to keep the daily grind from eroding their relationship. Get some of what they have by incorporating these happy-couple strategies into your love life.

1. Fall in love all over again. Make a conscious decision to be in love. The more you act as if you are in love, the more you will feel like you are.

2. Remember the good times. Treat your partner like you did at the beginning of your relationship. Make a list of all the things you used to enjoy doing together and add any new fantasies to the list. Plan for them and make them happen.

3. Help your partner feel more loved and secure in your love so that he or she can open up to you and express feelings and ideas without fear of being attacked or judged. Compliment, praise, and give a hug. Small gestures make the grandest statements.

4. Don't make unilateral decisions. You're a team in many ways, so act like one. Check in and make decisions together about things large and small. Be willing to compromise.

5. Be present. Train your mind to stay in the moment -- not at work, thinking about the new colour you want to paint your kitchen, or how it's time to take the dog to the vet.

6. Pay attention to your physical appearance. Take the time to stay in shape and look good for each o

7. Boost your compatibility. Couples in crisis focus on all the ways they are different, whereas those who are in love zero in on their similarities and think their differences are cute. Build compatibility by taking turns planning activities to do together. If you don't like your partner's choice, don't complain; it's your turn next.

8. Do not place blame. Replace blame and criticism with solutions and tenderness. Problem-solve together -- sit close, hold hands; touch each other's face or hair. Be playful. When was the last time you laughed together? Rent a comedy movie to tickle your funny bone.

9. Plan for sex. Spontaneity is great but smart couples know that good sex doesn't just happen. Like everything else, it takes time and planning.

10. Fact-find -- don't mind-read. You may think you know but you can't assume. You may believe he should know, but that's not fair, either. Always clear up misinterpretations and misunderstandings to make sure they don't throw you both off course.

11. Fight fair -- and by appointment only. Schedule a limited time to discuss a problem and confine your comments to that issue only. It's easier to relax and feel free to enjoy each other when you know you won't be ambushed by a litany of complaints and criticisms.

12. Prepare for checkouts. Even in the closest marriage, everyone needs time alone. Don't take it personally and don't make each other feel guilty if you need to spiritually and emotionally regroup. Just be sure to tell each other when you are checking out (max, one day) -- and when you're checking back in.

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All Of You

The sound of your voice is music to my ear

So soft, sweet, and clear

The kiss from your lips words cannot explain

It takes away my worries and my pain

The caress of your hand sends shivers down my spine

Every day I thank God that your mine.

The sight of your lovely face takes away all my fears

You're the one I want to love throughout the years

For an eternity I want to spend in your arms

Every day graced by your beauty and your charms.

Author: David Norman Meece