Don't Worry, Be Happy!

Living your life happily, resiliently, and optimistically is wonderful, but it's also essential to your health. Being a happy person actually protects you from stress linked to such top killers as heart attacks and strokes, and thus helps you live longer and better. 

Income, social status, skin colour, or health has nothing to do with real happiness. According to recent research, it has more to do with the ability to deal with the devastating blows that life deals, such as the death of a loved one, divorce, etc.

How does one become a content and optimistic person? It's up to you to reach your potential–when situations arise that anger or frightens you or brings on negative feelings, examine your reaction. You can actually train yourself to see the brighter side of a situation and deal with it more effectively and healthfully.

One of the smartest things ever said is that only one thing in life will always remain the same: change. Whether you're in an intolerable situation or even a euphoric one, things always change. Truly acknowledging this will help you cope during times of difficult personal trials.

Social networks are imperative to happiness. Accept people for who they are, avoid constant arguments, and let go of resentments. I don't mean that you should lie down and be a doormat, but rather make an effort to get along with others and try to understand their point of view. This small change can make an enormous difference in the way people treat you and the way you feel about both them and yourself.

A religious connection can provide you with a sense of belonging, support, and purpose. Being part of a dedicated group, with its singing, chanting, and meditation fosters joy and peace.

Gain a sense of power and take control of yourself and your thoughts. Therapy can help people harness a sense of control over themselves and their lives. Don't limit yourself to being a robot performing the perfunctory duties of wife, mother, and employee. But rather, empower and train yourself, and you will not only be happy and optimistic, but you will also be a better person to those who surround you. You are responsible to yourself to live your life to the fullest of your potential.

Battle of the sexes

An interesting, tongue in the cheek at the battle of the sexes:

What is in a name?

If Mary, Susan, Claire and Barbara go out for lunch, they will call each other Mary, Susan, Claire and Barbara.

If John, Brad, Tony and Daniel go out, they will affectionately refer to each other as Bruno, Scrappy, Peanut-Head and Godzilla.

Eating Out

When the bill arrives, John, Brad, Tony and Daniel will each throw in $20, even though the total is only $34.25. None of them will have any smaller bills and none will admit they want change back.

When Mary, Susan, Claire and Barbara get their bill, out come the pocket calculators.

Money

A man will pay $10 for a $5 item he needs.

A woman will pay $5 for a $10 item that she doesn't need, because it's on sale.

Bathrooms

A man has five items in his bathroom: a toothbrush, razor, shaving cream, a bar of soap, and a towel from the last motel he stayed over in.

The average number of items in a woman's bathroom is 328. The average man would not be able to identify most of them.

Arguments

Women always have the last word in an argument. Anything a man adds after that is the beginning of a new argument.

Cats

Women love cats.

Men may say they love cats, but when women are not looking, will men kick cats.

Future

A woman worries about the future -- until she gets a husband.

A man never worries about the future -- until he gets a wife.

Success

A successful man is one who makes more money than can be spent by his wife.

A successful woman is one who can find that a man.

Marriage

A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn't.

A man marries a woman expecting that she won't change, and she does.

Dressing Up

A woman will dress up when she goes shopping, empties the garbage, answers the phone, waters the plants, gets the mail and reads a book.

A man will dress up for weddings and funerals.

Natural

Men wake up looking as good as when they went to bed.

Women will somehow deteriorate during the night.

Children

A woman knows all about her children. She knows about their best friends, romances, secret hopes and dreams, favourite foods, fears and dental appointments.

A man is vaguely aware of some short people living in the house.

Thought for the Day

Married men should forget their mistakes. There is no need for two people to remember the same thing.

How to really love your wife

Listen to her

That means, opening up your ears and being perceptive to your wife’s needs.

Appreciate her

When was the last time you told your wife how much you really appreciate her and all the things she does?

Make your wife feel good about what she is and all that she does.

Please her sexually

There is a difference between having sex and making love. Make love in the afternoon or early morning. Love your wife with wisdom and start pleasing the woman you married.

Be More Helpful

Be more helpful by “asking” your wife if there is anything she needs you to do around the house, in the kitchen, or in the yard. She will be pleased that you did.

Be the Man of the House

Be her man and she’ll want to be your woman.

Share your feelings with your wife and get close with her. If you have emotions that are not getting met, talk to your wife about it. A wife wants to be there for her husband but if you don’t let your wife in, how can she help?

If you want a feminine, sexy and kind wife, then don’t try and control her to be what you want her to be. What you can do though, is control yourself to behave a certain way that makes your wife want to submit to your loving influence.

Love your wife with wisdom and with all your heart.