We All Are Beautiful

We are all born beautiful.  We are all capable of giving, receiving and sharing pleasure, we are all able to love and be loved. 

Beautiful people are those comfortable with their bodies. The best lovers are those who acknowledge themselves as sensual and sexual beings. They’re concerned with what’s on the inside, as well as the outside. But some people are more concerned with the outside, what they look like, and subsequently tend to ignore what’s inside and become just a tad shallow. 

If the motivation to change your body comes from the perspective of not being enough, there’s a small problem. It will never be enough.  The other problem here is the truth of change. To expect to look the same at 40 as we did at 25 is absurd. 

The secret is we must be more comfortable with whom we are, more secure, and must have an inner glow that only comes from a level of self-acceptance and self-love is much better. What we must accept is that once beautiful from inside; we will radiate the same beauty on the outside, irrespective of age!

The more you allow yourself to pleasure and be pleasured, the more aware of yourself, your physical and emotional being you become. This naturally brings a greater sense of well-being, energy and vitality. Regardless of what we look like externally. And we come to see that purely through feeling good, that whatever our body looks like, we can have fun and excitement, peace and passion. 

And then the desire to change anything physically becomes more realistic, easier and most importantly, the motivation to change becomes different. 

It’s because I like or even love myself more. And then weight, for example disappears, or my eating changes naturally or exercise is more fun or purposeful. It comes from inside and is not dependent on anybody or anything else. 

But the comfier I feel within my skin, the more sensual I allow myself to be, the better about myself I will feel, the more my body will come to a state of balance. And I will be happy!

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That first kiss!

My very first kiss... yes, I remember it well. He had been visiting my family that Sunday afternoon into the early evening. It was in the middle of winter and it was very cold.

Time finally came for him to return to his family a couple of blocks away from where I lived. He put on his coat and we stepped through the door onto an uncovered porch. The window in the door was all steamed up from the heat within so no one could see us outside except as a blur. When we stepped outside, we found that is was pouring down snow in very large flakes and starting to gather on the ground.

As we were standing there watching the snow, we turned toward each other, no words had been spoken, as if the snow had taken away our ability to talk. We looked into each others eyes and still without saying a word, we stepped toward each other, we embraced and then our lips met; soft, warm, moist a totally sensual moment, but being so young, we had only the vaguest idea what sensual was. Our lips stayed together a long time, the snow falling in these huge drops around us and on us.

Finally we parted and we both knew that it had finally happened for both of us. Our First Kiss. Unforgettable.

Love and kisses!

Engela

Relax the Sensual Way with a Hot Bath for Two

My dream bathroom is a far cry from what we have at our house now. We have a tiny bathtub that refuses to hold water. I am planning my dream home and the bathroom includes the largest, soaking whirlpool tub that we could possibly purchase!

I would love to drop our boys off with grandma and grandpa while my husband is at home preparing the bath. I would tell him not to light too many candles. Two or three is enough to keep the tub romantically lit.

Soaking in Warm Water with Jets

Warm water with lots of jets is key to soothing your tired aching muscles and bubbles are essential. Not only can bubbles lightly scent your bath they give you something to play with, other than each other!

Have a Bath Pillow

A bath pillow will help cushion your head as you relax with one another. Nothing is more uncomfortable than resting your head on the hard surface of your tub. If you don’t have a pillow then resting in the arms of your lover works well too!

Love and Drinks

At our home we don’t drink wine but I love sparkling grape juice. I would make sure my lover had a bottle and two glasses sitting next to the tub. It would be slightly chilled but not too cold to offset the warmth of the water. Make sure you have some sweets on hand, such as a good box of chocolates, or some strawberries just in case you get hungry and don’t want to leave the tub.

Coming Home to a Hot Bath

Coming home I would slip out of my clothes and slip into the tub. When my lover joins me I would treat him to a massage because my bath would be perfect.

by Lisa Hayes

Lingerie, A Powerful Turn-On

Men are visually stimulated. It probably stems from the first men of our species. The more easily they were aroused, the more frequently they would have sex, and the more of their off-spring would inhabit, and propagate the planet. The men walking around today are descended from those quick-to-get-aroused men.

Most men say sexy lingerie is one of the greatest turn-ons. One thing it tells them is that the woman wearing it is interested in sex and will probably be an enthusiastic partner.

Men not only like lingerie in the bedroom, they love to see a tiny bit of lace showing beneath a conservative suit, or through a silk blouse. It's not about being sleazy. Most men will certainly look at a sleazy woman putting on a sexy show, but they generally prefer a classier, more erotic and sensual look on the women they date and marry. Actually, if you've never tried it, you might be surprised that you like it. It will make you feel more feminine, attractive, and alluring. If you don't have anything sexy, get a Victoria's Secret catalogue. 

There are a variety of tasteful but sexy things to choose from. Or if you're more daring, go into a store specializing in sexy, playful lingerie. Go with a girlfriend and make it a fun activity.

If you're uncomfortable with wearing the things you've purchased, put them on and wear them under your clothes. No one will know you have them on but you'll get used to the idea and how it feels. Then when you reveal them to your man, you'll be able to give him the sensual and seductive experience that you intended when you made your purchase. 

Wearing sexy lingerie will make you feel sexier, more alluring, and attractive. It also helps keep you in the mood.

Jenny Love

Body image - a loaded topic

Wow – one of the most loaded topics. The wrong word or answer can get your head taken off, destroy or be destroyed, damaged for life.

Entire industries prosper on the fact that this a major concern for so many people in the western world. To say nothing of the support industries, advertising and media necessary to tell us how bad we will look if we don’t…, how horrible our lives will be, what terrible people we’ll be.

To paraphrase, and with licence, Winston Churchill: “Never in the field of human experience has so little been made so meaningful to so many by such manipulation.”

For the truth is that the “right stuff” - body, hair, pecs/breasts etc - is nothing but a manipulation that preys on one of our deepest fears – if we’re not “right”, nobody’s going to want us or love us.

Beauty within everyone

Within every one of us is beauty. We are all capable of giving, receiving and sharing pleasure, we are all able to love and be loved.

The most sensual people I’ve known are those comfortable with their bodies. The best lovers are those who acknowledge themselves as sensual and sexual beings.

They’re concerned with what’s on the inside, as well as the outside. Because let’s face it, when all we’re concerned with is the outside, what we look like, we tend to ignore what’s inside and become just a tad shallow.

The question that begs to be asked is “How beautiful are the beautiful people?” Does an amazing face or body come with the intelligence or heart or soul awareness to make pronouncements of value other than “I want to work for world peace”?

Never enough

If the motivation to change your body comes from the perspective of not being enough, there’s a small problem. It will never be enough. The insecurity and inevitable comparison ensures that somebody else is always going to be more… (or less…).

The other problem here is the truth of change. To expect to look the same at 40 as we did at 25 is absurd.

To look better because we’re more comfortable with who we are, more secure, to have an inner glow that only comes from a level of self-acceptance and self-love is much better. Now we’re talking!

Journey into Tantric

The journey into Tantric, Taoist sexuality and sensual exploration offers a path that brings us to a place of feeling good about who we are and how we look.

The first possibility on this journey is simply to feel good, to enjoy pleasure. We naturally start to feel better about ourselves when pleasure takes place in a space of honouring, nurturing and acceptance. And the experience of pleasure is not determined by how we look.

However, we are going to become more aware of our body and our health as we delve deeper into the realms of pleasure.

We will be more conscious of what we put inside us. We will exercise more. To enjoy the awesome magic of a three-hour Tantric lovemaking session you have to be fit and supple, you have to be able to breathe. You don’t need to be a sexual athlete, but you do need to be healthy.

Liking ourselves

Without even venturing into the realms of Tantric or anything sexually “funny”, the more you allow yourself to pleasure and be pleasured, the more aware of yourself, your physical and emotional being you become. This naturally brings a greater sense of well-being, energy and vitality.

So we start to like ourselves more. Regardless of what we look like externally. And we come to see that purely through feeling good, that whatever our body looks like, we can have fun and excitement, peace and passion.

And then the desire to change anything physically becomes more realistic, easier and most importantly, the motivation to change becomes different.

It’s because I like or even love myself more. And then weight, for example disappears, or my eating changes naturally or exercise is more fun or purposeful. It comes from inside and is not dependent on anybody or anything else.

But the comfier I feel within my skin, the more sensual I allow myself to be, the better about myself I will feel, the more my body will come to a state of balance. And I will be happy!

By Jonti Searll